According to my husband marriage is the hardest thing he’s ever done, and I have to agree. Entering into marriage we were like most people and thought as long as we just loved each other that’s all we needed. We were wrong. Marriage is hard because it’s constant work. It’s hard because it’s always changing, because we’re always changing, and you constantly have to change with it and grow. Being in a Godly marriage means that first and foremost when you get married you entered into a covenant not a contract that can be broke. When we first got married this was something we both knew, that divorce was something we would never do. But when you don’t know how to be married and God isn’t at the center of your marriage that “D” word becomes a way to find peace, to find joy again, to find yourself again, to get away from all the fights, anger, hurt, pain, and just move on. You start thinking maybe this wasn’t meant to be and it just shouldn’t be this hard. All these things are lies. You know why I know that, because I lived it and I know that God’s Word says something different and God’s Word is Truth.
I went a long time thinking that my husband was the problem, and while he does have his faults like anyone he wasn’t the problem. The problem was we needed to both learn how to be married. In order to do that we needed to learn that God needed to be first in our lives and first in our marriage. With God we’ve learn the true meaning of marriage and love. Love isn’t a feeling it’s a choice and when you choose to love your spouse the way God intended everything else falls into place. And while marriage will still be hard and it will always be work with God all things are possible. We’ve learned it isn’t about fighting to get out but fighting your way through. With God our marriage will not be broken.
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a tripe braided cord is not easily broken.”